LOVING AND ACCEPTING THE BODIES WE HAVE

By Coralie Darsey-Malloy

I was watching one of the entertainment shows and they were using Photo Shop to morph skinny actresses into ones that looked like the average woman on the street. At one time I worked in the fashion industry and developed a deep discontent with the body I had and developed two eating disorders in an attempt to force it down to a weight it was never meant to be.

It took years for me to change my views of myself and the body I was given. Thankfully those challenges are far behind me and my husband and I developed a healthy weight management program that assists clients in reaching a place of acceptance about the body they have. Many we have worked with stop chasing after an image that may not be right for them and begin to place emphasis on getting making their bodies healthy and strong.

Our course is called Body Dynamics...Your Body is Your Buddy and it emphasis the importance of loving the body we are in and striving to keep it healthy and strong at any age.

Part of my ability to overcome two eating disorders was to come to the realization that whatever the size, shape and appearance of anyone's body it is who lives inside that counts. When I began to commit to loving body the way it is that was my starting point. After that I realized it was more important to work on becoming healthy and whole than it was to pressure myself into being skinnier than I was meant to be. That was a turning point and I've never looked back.

That is the track we take when working with clients or presenting healthy living seminars. This approach works and consistently brings about lasting changes for the better. Once anyone makes peace with the body they have it frees up a tremendous amount of energy to live from the 'inside out' instead of the 'outside in.'

Now with a rapidly expanding population of baby-boomers we are seeing plastic surgery becoming one of the highest paying specialties in medicine. So what does that say about how countless people feel about the body they have and I couldn't help wondering what member here would say on this topic. To me if people want to enhance the body they have for themselves...that is way different that trying to change the body to fit unrealistic image to gain outer approval.

In my view life is a journey of learning to love yourself first and then extending that love to others at every encounter. I know from experience that cannot happen if one cannot make peace with the body they've been given. If society put as much emphasis on looking at how we FEEL rather than how we LOOK I think there would a lot less illness and imbalance out there. I think the school systems made a huge mistake in cutting physical education programs because it prevents kids from learning that from an early age that being active and enjoying exercise is a feel good experience.

So are you willing to share how you feel about the body you have and how you developed your opinion about it? Have you ever been a fully fledged member of the dieting brigade? Are you still...or did you get out of that and onto something else? Do you dislike parts of your body or something about how it reflects your culture? Or have you made peace with the body you have? To me our body is an outer reflection of who we are inside.

In my view it is up to each of us to define who we are...not the entertainment or fashion industry...or anyone/anything else. No one else can ever define our lives...we do.

As I am aging I have a few parts of my body that remind me of old injuries, traumas and dramas but overall I am very grateful to be as healthy as I am at the age I am. I am glad to have moved into the "wise woman" phase of my life and can truly own my personal growth and spiritual development that allows me to celebrate the gift of my life in the body I have. How about you?

 

CONNECTING ON BLOGTALK RADIO...OUR LINK

Coralie Darsey-Malloy and David Malloy are the creators and directors of a personal development company called Fresh Beginnings. We offer a variety of services including private life coaching by phone anywhere in the world through Skype or in North America by phone. Our goal is to share life enhancing ideas that assist people in living their best lives and those are the topics we discuss on BlogTalk Radio. The link to join us there is:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/fresh-beginnings.rss

Other services include custom designing seminars and workshops and "have workshop...will travel." David and Coralie are available for public speaking and our company also offered on-line courses in a variety of healthy, dynamic living areas.

After overcoming two eating disorders and body images distortions Coralie developed a course in healthy weight management called Weight No More. When she and David met they expanded the course and it is now presented as Body Dynamics...Your Body is Your Buddy. It is a proven system for healthy weight less with a whole person approach. As partners in life and business and clients appreciate our "one stop shopping" for personal development services.

We created a model for transformational change from the inside out called the Inner Dynamics System that has a measurable track record for assisting others in achieving their goals. Clients appreciate that we offer both the male and female perspective in our coaching services. Even though we have been told that what we do is therapeutic we are not therapists. We work with clients and assist them in informed, accountable choice making and conscious living.

The services we are offer are not intended as a replacement for other health and medical services. For more information about our services contact us through our website www.fresh-beginnings.com or Email: info@fresh-beginnings.com or check our YouTube Channel:

http://www.youtube.com/user/FBVentures.

We also have a social forum on the Ning network where we share ideas about healthy, dynamic living and transformational change. The link to join is:

http://freshbeginnings.ning.com

Twitter:

http://twitter.com/fresh_beginning

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/fresh-beginnings.rss

HEMI-SYNC TECHNOLOGY...A DYNAMIC WAY TO CHANGE PATTERNS AND ENHANCE HEALTH AND WELL-BEING

David and i have been have been using Hemi-Sync brain wave technologies for over 20 years
and continue to do so. Robert Monroe was one of the founders of this breakthrough technology and we went to his site and copied the FAQ's from their site. The link to check out what they have to offer is: http://www.hemi-sync.com/default.asp

Hemi-Sync Frequently Asked Questions General

Q: In a nutshell, what is Hemi-Sync®?
A: Hemi-Sync® is a scientifically based and clinically proven "audio-guidance" technology that uses sound to influence brain wave activity. This patented, and highly sophisticated technology is backed
by over 40 years of research. For more details, see the expanded explanation in What is Hemi-Sync®?

Q: How does Hemi-Sync® work?

A: Hemi-Sync® is an audio-guidance process that works through the generation of complex, multilayered audio signals, which act together to create a resonance that is reflected in unique brain wave forms
characteristic of specific states of consciousness. The result is a focused, whole-brain state known as hemispheric synchronization, or “Hemi-Sync®,” where the left and right hemispheres are working together
in a state of coherence. As an analogy, lasers produce focused, coherent light. Hemi-Sync® produces a focused, coherent mind, which is an optimal condition for improving human performance

Q: Is Hemi-Sync® on all the products?
A: Yes.

Q: Are all titles available in both tape and CD format?

A: No. However, we have a separate listing of everything available on CD

Q: Are the Hemi-Sync® frequencies the same on each title?

A: No. The Hemi-Sync® process has evolved into a sophisticated multi-layering of Hemi-Sync® signals - "designer mixes" of sound frequencies, fashioned to be optimally effective for a given
application. Naturally, Hemi-Sync® sleep products incorporate predominately delta frequencies; learning products predominately beta and so forth. However these designer mixes are supplemented with
special sound frequencies, which enable the desired result. This is the "key" to the effectiveness of Hemi-Sync.

Q: How long are Hemi-Sync® tapes and CDs?

A: Most are between 30 and 40 minutes long. Timing varies to accomplish the purpose of each listening experience.

Q: Can someone with hearing loss benefit from Hemi-Sync®?

A: Yes. Doctors and individuals with impaired hearing tell us that the
frequencies are effectively carried to the brain by the bones in the
ear canal.

Q: Is Hemi-Sync® like hypnosis?

A: Yes, they are similar. Hypnosis is an induced, altered state of mind, in which the body is deeply relaxed, sufficient to be temporarily ignored, except for demands like bladder fullness, etc. It is sometimes
described as "focused concentration." This "state" is one in which the participant has perhaps even more control over the body and self than in "ordinary" states of consciousness. Witness the fact that hypnosis is sometimes used for pain control in minor surgeries, childbirth, and even dentistry. It is an expanded state of awareness, in which one can be fully aware of the sensory data from the environment, (sound, light,
temperature, etc.) and at the same time can develop awareness of other data sources as well, such as past lives, out-of-body information, information from guides, one's inner self, etc. Neither state can
"make" you DO anything. You are able to maintain your faculties for choice and value systems, including choosing to follow suggestions from the therapist or not. Hemi-Sync® is designed to leave control in the
hands of the listener as well. In this sense, it's somewhat related to self-hypnosis. Hemi-Sync® does not "make" you do anything. It simply creates an effect that helps you move into a certain state, providing
that you relax and are open to responding to the Hemi-Sync® process.

Q: Are Hemi-Sync® products subliminal?

A: No. Subliminal recordings have the intention of embedding a
particular thought in the mind of the listener by recording words at sub audible levels, often at high speeds. Hemi-Sync® sound patterns, although recorded at a sub audible level, are not verbal messages and
are not recorded at high speed. The purpose of Hemi-Sync® sound patterns is to assist you in obtaining the focused brain state you desire.

Q: Some Hemi-Sync® products have sections in which the voice is too low
for me to understand. Isn't that subliminal? Or is it a defect in the
product?

A: No to both questions. By the time the voice becomes low in volume, you are in an extremely relaxed state or perhaps asleep. The words you may not understand are simply a repetition of earlier sections of the recording. They are repeated for purposes of reinforcement, at a very low volume so as not to interfere with your state of relaxation.

Q: Is Hemi-Sync® recommended for children?

A: All nonverbal recordings are fine for children. With verbally guided titles, we recommend you listen first and then decide based on your child's level of maturity.

Q: How does Hemi-Sync® Compare To Other Products?







A: We occasionally receive inquiries from individuals desiring to know how Hemi-Sync® compares to other brain wave products they may have heard about. It would be inappropriate for us to comment on specific
products or technologies but following are some observations we can make with regard to Hemi-Sync:
•Robert Monroe's pioneering work with hemispheric synchronization (Hemi-Sync) sound patterns inspired an entire industry of mind/brain products and technologies.
•Hemi-Sync is a technologically sophisticated process that has been awarded three U.S. patents.
•With millions of products sold worldwide, Hemi-Sync® has been shown to be a highly effective, safe, time-proven technology.
•Improving the efficacy of Hemi-Sync® has been a continually evolving
process—which we have remained committed. Today's Hemi-Sync® has been
refined with over 40 years of research and development and is supported
by numerous studies, reports, articles and testimonials available at www.Hemi-Sync.com. Hemi-Sync® has been scientifically and clinically proven to be effective.

•Over the years, the Hemi-Sync® process has evolved into a
sophisticated multi-layering of Hemi-Sync® signals—"designer mixes" of
sound frequencies, fashioned to be optimally effective for a given
application. Naturally, Hemi-Sync® sleep products incorporate
predominately delta frequencies; learning products predominately beta
and so forth. However, these designer mixes are supplemented with
special sound frequencies which enable the desired result. This is the
"key" to the effectiveness of Hemi-Sync.
•Ongoing Hemi-Sync® research has resulted in the development of scores
of individual products for specific applications such as focused
attention, stress reduction, meditation, sleep enhancement, and pain
control, to name a few. Other Hemi-Sync® products are available as a
series (some of which are progressive in nature) such as the Gateway
Experience® In-Home training program for exploring states of consciousness.
•We do not recommend using Hemi-Sync® in combination with other devices or technologies that influence brain activity.

his video describes the Hemi-Sync® technology and highlights the various product categories that feature Hemi-Sync®. For more information about Hemi-Sync® or to order any of the titles that feature Hemi-Sync®, please visit us on the web at www.hemi-sync.com, or call toll free 1-800-541-2488

TIPS TO STAY HEALTHY DURING COLD AND FLU SEASON

This is a copy of the article I wrote and was recently published in my column.

It provides some natural ways to stay healthy during the cold and flu season.

PERSPECTIVES ON HEALTHY LIVING

How to Stay Healthy Through the Cold and Flu Season

By CORALIE RAIA DARSEY-MALLOY

With growing concern over swine flu, many people are looking for natural, effective flu prevention and treatment. In my own healing journey and from working with clients in my life-coaching practice, I have found a variety of ways to prevent and treat flu and colds naturally.

My mentor, Dr. George Kroeker, told me that it is important to keep the body in balance and when illness occurs, to create ways to support the system so it can heal itself.

Widespread outbreaks of influenza usually occur from October to March. Both colds and flus are picked up by direct contact or by touching objects previously handled by an infected person. Viruses can be a concern but the majority of people who come down with them recover within a week or two. The doctor I see says that although many believe in the efficacy of vaccines, they do not guarantee protection against the flu and sometimes cause more harm than good. This may be especially true this fall as rushed production allows less time for safety testing.

When clients call asking for suggestions to treat colds and flu, I suggest caution when using painkillers normally used for headaches. Many of the pills and hot lemon drinks contain the same active ingredients and can overload the system. It is advisable to consult a health practitioner before self-prescribing over-the-counter remedies.

Given that there are no known cures for colds and viruses, my first recommendation is to minimize exposure and strengthen your immunity as the best way to stay healthy. Here are some of my “perspectives” on healthy living and flu prevention:

The Basics

• Get enough sleep. The immune system functions much better with seven to nine hours sleep for optimal health. When the body is fatigued, it is less able to ward off viruses and infections.

• Exercise moderately on a regular basis.

• Avoid sugar. Even small amounts of sugar can impair immune function, leaving you more susceptible to the flu.

• During cold weather, indoor heating systems dry out the mucous membranes in the nose and throat. It is important to keep them well hydrated by drinking more water. Using indoor water fountains or other methods to improve humidity, especially in the bedrooms, makes sense.

• Germs and viruses enter through the eyes, nose, mouth and, possibly, ears; so it is important to keep your distance from those who are infected and wash your hands frequently. It's also advisable to carry a hand sanitizer and use it after shaking hands or touching handles, payphones and doorknobs. A naturopath told me that coating the inside of the nostrils with sesame oil can help to prevent germs from entering the body.

• If you are sick, stay home to recover and to prevent spread to others. Muffle coughs and sneezes with the crook of the elbow rather than using bare hands or tissues. When tissues are used, dispose of them immediately and thoroughly sanitize the hands.

• Relax and maintain a positive attitude. Too much stress has a negative impact on health and mental well-being. Meditation and creative visualization can be explored for their calming effects.

• Reduce alcohol consumption. Alcohol depletes B vitamins, impairs liver function and creates greater susceptibility to infections. You might want to add a B-vitamin supplement to your regime.

• Avoid smoking, including second-hand smoke. Cigarette smoke dries out the nasal passages and paralyzes the small hairs in the nose and lungs that help ward off viruses.

• Take regular saunas as many Europeans do. The air in saunas is too hot for viruses to survive; thus steam and infrared saunas cleanse the system and provide immune boosting effects. However, people with heart conditions should consult their health care practitioner before using any form of intense heat therapy.

In my work as a life coach, I also suggest clients include a variety of flu-fighting and immune-boosting foods in their diets. Some of these are:

• A variety of dark green, red and yellow vegetables and fruits. These are packed with healthful nutrients.

• Fresh, raw or lightly cooked garlic has strong, natural antiviral properties. [Editor’s note: See View from the Veg, page 5, for more on garlic.]

• Green tea, like garlic, is known to improve immunity.

• Cayenne pepper is filled with vitamin A and acts as a catalyst for herbs and vitamins. (maybe delete)

• It is important to supplement with yogurt or acidophilus pills after a round of antibiotics in order to replenish friendly bacteria that have been wiped out in the course of treatment. This could be relevant for people who get the flu and are given antibiotics for secondary bacterial infections.

• Echinacea is a popular cold and flu remedy especially if taken early, before symptoms worsen.

• A number of people find vitamin C and zinc lozenges beneficial, especially zinc gluconate and zinc acetate.

Colds are Another Matter

Although the common cold is usually milder than the flu, it is still worth looking after. If you ignore symptoms and try to keep going as usual, it can turn into a worse illness. If you have underlying medical problems, it’s especially important to pay attention. Here are more ideas for self care:

• At the first sign of a sore throat, gargle with ½ teaspoon salt in warm water.

• Saline nasal drops as well as steam inhalations with sage, chamomile leaves, menthol and eucalyptus can help clear sinuses.

• Whenever early symptoms of a cold or flu appear, put two tablespoons each of dried sage leaves and whole cloves in a large pot and make a tea. Sipping it can soothe the throat and help fight infections.

• Vapour rubs, hot water bottles and soaks in a warm tub with one to two cups of Epsom salts can provide steam to stuffed nasal passages and relief for sore aching muscles.

• Lozenges with menthol, eucalyptus, honey and lemon may soothe an irritated throat.

• Tissues with moisturizers can help prevent sore skin around the nose. Lip balm soothes chapped lips.

• Traditional Chinese Medicine (herbal remedies and acupuncture) can effectively bring the body back into balance.

• The following cold remedy is a family recipe that provides immune boosting and cleansing properties. I choose to drink this brew undiluted but it can be modified by adding water or reducing individual ingredients.

4 C. water

2 T. fresh or ground ginger

½ t. cayenne

1 whole head of garlic

2 quartered lemons (wash first, rind on)

Maple syrup or honey to taste

Simmer 20 minutes. Add ½ cup of mixture to ½ cup warm water or to taste.

Coralie Raia Darsey-Malloy is a freelance photojournalist, life coach, group leader and public speaker and can be contacted through the Fresh Beginnings website, www.freshbeginnings.com.